About Me

Rhesa R. Kaulia, MC/MFT, MFT #156

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

I’m kama’aina (born and raised in Hawai’i on the North Shore of O’ahu). I completed my undergraduate degree in Psychology and Creative Writing at the University of Redlands in Southern California. I then graduated from the University of Phoenix with a Master of Counseling degree, emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy. I have also completed additional post-graduate coursework and internships at Argosy University. I am currently completing my Ph.D.  in Marriage and Family Therapy through Northcentral University, a COAMFTE accredited school.

I am licensed to practice Marriage and Family Therapy in the State of Hawai’i, and am a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) as well as the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists- Hawaii Chapter (AAMFT-HI).

I have been in the counseling field since 1993 and in private practice since 1996. My experience includes working with teens and adults on substance abuse issues, running residential programs for those in recovery, working in and running group homes for teens, working in the juvenile and adult prison and court systems, providing treatment for adult sex offenders, working at in-patient treatment facilities with serious mental illnesses (both with teens and adults), creating and running functional life skills programs for Autistic children, working in and out of homes with families and couples as well as establishing a private practice.  I have extensive experience working with the Family Court system providing co-parenting therapy and Parenting Coordination. Further, I have provided training on cognitive restructuring, social and life skills training, as well as Parenting Strategies for Children who Witnessed Domestic Violence. I also provide supervision and hands-on training for aspiring Therapists. My experiences have led me to Cleveland, Ohio, the San Bernardino County in Southern California and all over the State of Hawai’i.

My philosophy of therapy is holistic, meaning that I believe that people are made up of different parts – body, mind and spirit. I believe a person is created by God to experience wholeness, or a balance between all of the parts. This also includes a connection to God and others. If one part is out of balance, or if a relationship becomes broken, this might signal the need for help.

Just as there are multiple parts to a person, I also believe that people are connected in various relationship systems and that each person in the relationship is important to balance the whole. So in helping to repair the wholeness of a person, I look at these systems. When these relationships are out of balance, there are many different factors and patterns that can affect this imbalance. I place a strong emphasis on the cognitions (thoughts) and behaviors that individuals exhibit which can affect these relationships and the patterns they engage in. I also focus on relationship dynamics and each person’s experience in as well as contribution to them. Finally, I look for ways to promote growth and change in existing individual and systemic problems.